There was some newly married lady over at the Times of London complaining about people asking her when will have a baby. Cry me a river.
Ali Panton, the website director for Glamour UK, has recently gotten married (congratulations) and is a bit put out that a few people including close family and friends to her gym instructor are asking her when she will have a baby. How very dare they! “Birth rates in the UK have been steadily declining since 2010 and are now at their lowest since records began — so why do we still assume that all women of child-bearing age must want to, well, bear children?.”
That assumption is made because the desire to reproduce is one of the strongest drivers all mammals have. It is still present in most humans – despite the climate change hysteria and the anti – child poison that has been pushed in much of the West. People assume that all women of child bearing age who have found a husband want to have a child because that is the natural thing for a married woman to do.
Panton complains, “It’s the blind presumption I take issue with — as if my womanhood will only be complete when I become a mother.” Exactly. This is the presumption people make because this is the truth – womanhood is only complete when you become a mother. That was the way it was up until about 10 minutes ago when the feminists decided children were a bad thing.
The life course for women was after childhood they were maidens, then they got married and had a child and became matrons and mothers and then eventually earned the right to become a matriarchy or grandmother and shape the next generation. Women who did not become mothers were not celebrated. Instead there was sympathy and compassion shown towards them.
If a society did start celebrating women who had actively chosen to not become mothers then that society would die out within a few generations, which is in fact happening in the West. Don’t worry though, other civilisations which do not put the downer on mothers and children will just take us over. Good luck with that, I’ll be dead and long gone thankfully before I see the fruits of that particular glorious revolution.
Panton again, “For all the people who have asked me when I plan to have a baby, none has considered whether I actually want to have one. Really, it’s no one’s business but mine and my husband’s. But this question would at least acknowledge me as more than just a baby-carrying vessel simply because I’m now somebody’s wife.” Again no one has asked you whether you want to have a baby because for all of human history wanting to become a mother was natural and so obviously a moral good not just for yourself but for society that it didn’t have to be asked. People don’t ask grandparents why they don’t knock off their screaming infant grandchild either, because to do such a thing would be so patently disordered no one has to ask why.
Nor is it really no one else’s business. Yes on one hand having a child is a deeply personal choice however the reason people feel they can stick their noses into your business is because deep down everyone in society has an interest in there being the next generation. Only a society that was disordered and had seriously lost its way would make it difficult for young couples to have children (Ireland and the UK) or indeed not give a flying hoo-ha whether the next generation actually appeared. That would be unnatural.
Then Panton tells us the truth about the child – free. “There’s a trend on TikTok where couples proclaim themselves as dinks — double income, no kids — and show off their child-free lives, and the freedom (and disposable income) it affords them.
“We spend our money on airline tickets instead of Christmas gifts,” admits one dink. “We get to sleep at 9pm and still complain about being tired. We get to spoil our nieces and nephew, have all the fun and then give them back. We don’t judge the child-full so don’t judge the child-free.””
No. We absolutely should judge the child – free who in the long term will contribute a lot less to society than mothers and fathers. You can choose to stay child – free and spend your disposable income on airline tickets and I can judge you for it. And don’t bother telling me that some child – free men and women are making big contributions to the future of humanity because they are surgeons or astronauts or scientists curing cancers. Most men and women over the age of 35 who are childfree are not doing any of these things. They are, as documented on TikTok, on childfree holidays, in childfree restaurants and having a lie in. When not doing these things there are on Instagram.
These things are self – centered and generate less moral good than what mothers and fathers are doing: namely buying the Christmas gifts for their children, breastfeeding an infant, reading to a toddler, putting a 10 year old to bed or stalking the house after a sulky teenage boy and trying to get his phone off him. Yes, these things are of more value than watching TV. That’s a fact. As the Irish constitution says: In particular, the State recognises that by her life within the home, woman gives to the State a support without which the common good cannot be achieved.
What the constitution does not say is that the State recognises that by her child – free life documented on TikTok and immense amount of disposable income spent on holidays in Ibiza and shoes women gives the State a support without which the common good cannot be achieved. Do we see the distinction?
Finally, I will judge the child – free men and women as selfish because as surely as night follows day their decision to stay childfree will not stop them relying on my children and their time and energy when they grow up to be productive members of society and that we parents have spent enormous amounts of time and money raising. The child – free will be there, disposable income spent, demanding their pensions and their hip operations and healthcare and someone to serve them their coffee and it will be the children of those who did reproduce who provide all of this to the child – free who choose – actually choose – to go on holiday while you were nursing a sick infant.
There are a small number of couples who cannot have children for a small number of reasons and this could include suffering from a mental health condition that makes it unfair to bring a child into. These couples can help out – in a serious way – with the raising of their nephews, nieces or the children of close friends. The rest of the child – free – especially those on TikToK are just selfish.
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