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The Long Game: how the family will decide the future

Let’s face it – cultural conservatism as a worldview can seem as if it’s on the ropes across much of the world.

Sure, there are still some oases of traditionalism knocking about – Poland, Hungary – and there are some electoral or court wins in this or that country. And all of that is great.

But at the end of the day, if you are the kind of person who values life-long marriage, or thinks preborn babies should be protected, or even believes in basic biology or the freedom to practise your religion, the global situation can seem like a cause for pessimism these days.

However, while short and medium-term solutions to these problems must be figured out urgently – be it through elections, alternative media outlets, awareness campaigns, and so forth – it’s also important to think in the very long term. And when I say long term, I mean the intergenerational long term, spanning decades – possibly even centuries. When it comes to civilization-wide paradigm shifts, it’s very often the case that change comes dropping slow. We need to start viewing many of these cultural skirmishes as marathons rather than sprints.

After all, that’s exactly what the radical Left have done to the rest of society.

If you were to air a program like Netflix’ “Cuties” 20 years ago, people would be in the streets with pitchforks and torches. Drag Queen Story hour, gender changes for children, abortion for teenagers without parental consent – none of these things would have been possible within most of our lifetimes up until very recently. People would have been rightly horrified and wouldn’t have stood for it. But very gradually, through “salami tactics”, the frog in the pot was eventually boiled, and here we are. The Long March Through The Institutions was just that – long. But it paid off in spades.

So how exactly does one counter this? Until electoral victory becomes viable, what is the long-term strategy? Well, in a word, demographics.

It’s a known fact that demographics and birthrates can change a lot in a society over time, be it politically, culturally, or otherwise. Here on our own island, this has been a major factor in the North and the ever-increasing likelihood of a United Ireland.

As a 2019 Irish Times article on an Ulster University report outlined:

“Within a decade, Belfast will almost certainly have a Catholic majority,” it states; in effect, a majority Protestant Northern Ireland “is now restricted to the suburban area surrounding Belfast.”

It is evident from the data over many years that very few Protestants consider themselves to have an Irish national identity and that the vast majority of those who call themselves Irish also identify as Catholic.”

This, unsurprisingly, is mainly due to generally high Catholic birth rates compared to Protestants, at least until recent times. Over time more Catholic babies has closed the gap between the Catholic and Protestant populations in the North and is set to tip the scales demographically and electorally, for better or for worse.

Bear in mind, this article is not about the merits of a United Ireland. Love it or hate it, this is just a real world example close to home of where changing demographics can manifest in voting patterns over time.

We can also see this in religiosity at a global scale. Most Western people would be shocked to know that atheists or “non-religious” people, while seemingly in the ascendant today – and certainly most vocal in media and government – are actually set to shrink as a percentage of the global population in the coming years and decades. How, you might ask? Well, it’s simple – secular Europeans, by and large, are not having children.

Between things people choose – like abortions, contraception, or simply deciding not to have kids – and sometimes factors outside of their control, like marrying later in life when fertility is lower, financial instability, and so forth, secular European birthrates have plunged. Many liberals even actively discourage having children for environmental reasons, or because of the “overpopulation” idea (which is a myth – we are experiencing a catastrophic fertility and population crash worldwide, despite what some would have you believe).

Meanwhile, birthrates in countries around the world where Islam and Catholicism remain a significant part of the culture remain high. Based on current trends, there will be less atheists per capita in the world in coming decades than there are today, as hard as that may be to believe.

So what’s the point of all this?

Well, in a nutshell, if you want to see more people that share your values in society long-term, one completely natural and surefire way to do that is to make some with your spouse. That means like-minded men and women coming together, marrying, having lots of babies, and raising them with good values.

Conservatives always talk about “the family unit” as some vague, nebulous concept, but often forget that this can be an extremely powerful asset – which is, of course, why the radical Left despise it so much. They know its power and they fear it.

If 5,000 conservative couples had 5 babies each right now, in 25 years that could be an extra 25,000 adult traditionalists added to our society. If at that point those babies went out, married each other in their early 20s, and had 5 babies each themselves, that multiplies to 62,500, and so on. Exponential growth.

Now, obviously, we’re not talking exact numbers here – some kids would not adhere to their parents’ worldview, and so on. These are just rough examples for the sake of argument. But the point is, in theory, within a couple of generations, you’d be looking at a serious voting block of hundreds of thousands (or potentially millions) of adult voters in Ireland sympathetic to the traditionalist worldview, all without spending a cent on advertising, campaigning or having to battle a biased mainstream media or Big Tech monopoly.

So, practically, how exactly would this work? Obviously at this point some will raise the issue of cost and the atrocious state of the housing market, which makes it difficult for couples who to settle down and start families. And of course, not everyone meets the person they want to marry at a young age. There’s also the issue of Leftwing bias in the education system, and the fact that many young people go into school or university with perfectly reasonable opinions and end up being subjected to these radical ideas by their Marxist teachers.

While none of these problems are insignificant, they are certainly manageable.

Now look; I’m not saying it’s easy to get settled in a house in this country by any means – not by a long shot. It’s bloody hard, especially if you live in a city, for reasons largely outside of our control. But that being said, the current challenges would definitely be easier to manage if young people started thinking seriously about marriage at a younger age and saving earlier in life.

Part of the problem is, because getting married young (as in, in your early to mid-twenties) is so unconventional in modern Western society, a lot of people don’t even consider marriage until they’re almost 30 or older. By that point, a couple doesn’t even have many fertile years left to conceive, even if they wanted a lot of children. Sad though that may be, it’s the simple truth of the matter.

Therefore, a big help would be if conservatives saw a paradigm shift where people started getting serious about relationships and settling down at a younger age, even if just as an aspiration. Then people would have significantly more time to save for a deposit on a house, and not be rushing to squeeze out a baby at the eleventh hour. If people set goals for themselves, like “I want to be married by the time I’m” (for example) “twenty five”, that would galvanise their focus and people would start to orient their financial decisions and life choices around that goal. By changing one’s planned life schedule, a lot else can change with it. You’ll be less inclined to spend money on wild partying, JustEat, and general waste that we all like to indulge in. The simple act of deciding “I want to get married in the next few years” can do wonders for crystallizing one’s priorities.

Obviously this doesn’t absolve the government for their part in obliterating the housing market. It’s not our fault that the country is banjaxed. But it is something individuals can do in their own lives to help themselves and make the most of a bad situation. When life gives you lemons, you make lemonade.

On a more philosophical note, I think people sometimes overemphasise the need for ideal material conditions when thinking about raising children. Now, obviously, having a baby on minimum wage is very difficult to put it mildly – nobody would reasonably dispute that. But provided a person has some financial means – even modest means – I think people would be surprised at how resourceful they can be in raising a family. Having children, after all, is the natural default of humanity – we’ve been doing this for tens of thousands of years. If you needed great fortune and wealth to have kids, our species wouldn’t be here today, right? There are 7 billion of us on the planet for a reason – clearly we know what we’re doing in this area.

Think about tribes in 3rd world countries. You’ll see some guy living in an animal skin tent who owns literally nothing, and yet he has kids – often many kids. People in the stone age wearing animal pelts had kids. Medieval peasants and serfs had kids. There are women living in North Korea right now who are starving in a brutal Communist dictatorship, and yet are having kids. Thank God we don’t have those kinds of problems in the West for the time being.

Not to be flippant about a serious issue, but ultimately, good men and good women coming together in a respectful, loving marriage is all you actually, ultimately need. If society collapsed tomorrow and we ended up in some kind of Mad Max apocalypse scenario, people would still have families. Dublin is not at the level of a Mad Max wasteland (yet). If our environment had to be 100% ideal before one could start a family, humanity would have gone extinct millenia ago. We should be pragmatic and use our sense, clearly, but we should also keep in mind that it’s not all about material conditions – we’d probably all surprise ourselves with how much we can do with very little.

Also, as a side note, pro-tip: people spend mental amounts on weddings in this country.

If you ask me, the whole wedding industry is largely a racket. The thing that makes a wedding special is the sacrament of the day and the union with your partner – not the pomp and ceremony. That’s all gloss. It’s an important occasion, of course, and we all want to splash out a bit, but at the end of the day, it’s one 24 hour period of your life, and you have to live with the financial fallout after.

It’s up to you, clearly – it’s your life. But just be aware, you can have a perfectly lovely wedding without spending tens of thousands of euro and running into crippling debt. Keeping costs down under the €10k mark in that department will definitely help allocate your hard-earned cash to other, more long-lasting uses, like house deposits and mortgages. Just a suggestion.

Meeting the right person
Now, of course, we don’t all meet the right person when we’re young, and that’s truly unfortunate. It’s a tragically common story – as my late grandfather used to say, “Falling in love wouldn’t be special if it happened every day.” Good, compatible partners can be few and far between, especially in this day and age.

But if you are a young traditionally-minded person, and you want to find that special someone, a good piece of advice is to avoid looking in the “general population” – random nightclubs, colleges, work, etc. I mean, in theory, could you run into a cute conservative by pure fluke at the pub? Sure, it could happen. But so could winning the lottery this week – I just wouldn’t hold my breath. By definition, in an extremely liberal culture, right-leaning young people are going to be hard to find, and the odds of you running into the ideal man or woman at your local college gym are incredibly small.

Therefore, your best bet is going to be churches, prayer groups, conservative political meetups – that sort of thing. I met my fiancé at the Rally for Life, for example. Pick events where the people who are going will be aligned with your values, and then just be yourself. Make friends, be fun and relaxed, and keep a lookout for anyone who catches your eye.

And when you do date, date seriously, with the idea of a future marriage to this person in mind. Don’t do “flings” or non-serious relationships for the craic – that’s a waste of everyone’s time. You’re trying to discern whether you would want to spend the rest of your life with this person. Be careful, obviously – don’t jump into a commitment recklessly, but make sure not to be aloof or frivolous either. If you don’t see it going anywhere long-term, it’s probably not for you.

At the end of the day, even if you happen to be single and in your early-20s, there’s nothing stopping you saving up seriously now for the day you do meet the right person. Just think about how much you’ll thank yourself when you finally do meet your life partner, and you have years of financial groundwork put in and a nice lump sum ready to go on a house deposit. You can prepare long before you actually meet the man or woman of your dreams, and it’ll make both of your lives MUCH easier later on.

Insulating your kids from liberal propaganda
OK – so you have a few quid, you’ve met your life partner, and you’ve gotten married. Now comes the REALLY hard part; you have to deal with every NGO, news outlet, government department, and every branch of the education system, from primary school to university (and probably even créche at this point), trying to teach your kids about “porn literacy”, radical RSE curriculum and other such liberal hogwash. So how do you protect your kids from this so they don’t turn into mindless zombies for the establishment?

Well, the first step is to actually try.

Anecdotally, I’ll never forget working with a middle-aged Dad when I was younger, who told me that his kids were coming home from school every day and telling him about things like what it meant to be gender “non-binary” – the unscientific idea that you can be neither male, nor female, but identify as a third gender entirely.

“I don’t get it at all personally,” he said with a shrug, “But sure look, if that’s what they’re teaching, I suppose the times are changing.” In other words, “I think my kids are learning nonsense, but I’m not going to correct or help them understand in any way.”

I didn’t say anything to him at the time, but his response drove me cracked.

I think a lot of people today worry about “imposing beliefs” on their children, which is totally understandable. But people have to realise that there’s a huge difference between imposing your beliefs, and gently guiding your child when they’re regurgitating baseless tripe and political propaganda that they were force-fed by a teacher or school staff. If a kid comes home talking about ideas they learned at school which completely fly completely in the face of his parents’ values, those parents have every right to explain to that child where they are going wrong – especially when it comes to potentially harmful subjects like porn use or transgender puberty blockers.

This laissez-faire, libertine, hands-off attitude of “what will be will be, let my 12 year old decide” is simply not a viable option if one wants to keep their kids on the traditionalist straight and narrow. Anything else is like saying “Aren’t you going to let your children play on a 3 storey balcony and decide for themselves whether they want to jump off?” I think not. There are dangers in the world that they might not be able to see yet, and it’s a parents’ duty to prevent them from falling into those traps. And that means equipping them with tried and tested value sets that are conducive to a happy life.

A loving parent with life experience and the child’s best interest at heart should primarily have the child’s ear – not some bureaucrat stranger who, at best, is only teaching the kid to get their 9 to 5 paycheck and go home, and at worst has a political agenda they’re trying to impart on impressionable minds. Actually asserting traditional values in ones’ own home is not only OK, but essential to push back against the barrage of State-sponsored woke prosthelytizing we’re all bombarded with every minute of every day.

This is assuming you even want to go the school route. There’s a lot to be said for homeschooling, if one can afford it, especially if you live rurally. Losing one parents’ income might even end up working out financially net-even when you take into account saved school-related costs and fees (though this will clearly vary based on personal life situation).

The expensive marxist training camp that is college isn’t necessarily a must either – sure, it has its utility if your child wants to become a nuclear physicist or an engineer. But let’s not ignore the fact that a lot of people are walking around in society with waffle degrees either. People feel that if they don’t send their children to college, they’ll be hampering their life chances, but something tells me a degree in women’s studies wouldn’t do much good either. Unless it’s a worthwhile subject that they’ve shown an aptitude for, it might not be for them.

I wrote a whole article on the benefit of trades as a career path recently, which you can find above. Just something to consider, best to play these things by ear.

At the end of the day, these are just ideas to get people’s noggin joggin’ – you can take them or leave them, and everyone knows their own life situation best and what’s possible or desirable for them. All I’m saying is, if you want a nice, big, traditional family in modern times, there are always workarounds. Where there’s a will, there’s a way, as they say.

Remember; the future belongs to those who invest in it.

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